"The beginning of love is to let those we love be perfectly themselves, and not to twist them to fit our own image. Otherwise we love only the reflection of ourselves we find in them."
- Thomas Merton
If it's time to clean up your relationship and transcend from the drama (resentment, conflict, indifference and neglect) into a space where unconditional love and joy is possible once again, check into Relationship Rehab. This coaching model begins with extreme self-care, which means getting your own life to a place of integrity and self-awareness. Hitting the refresh button on your own life is the first step toward regaining your ability to exist in a healthy relationship. Then you and your partner will work on honing communication skills and building a life strategy where you become partners in creating what you want as a couple.
HOLISTIC COACHING FOR RELATIONSHIPS
What is Holistic Coaching?
Holistic means "the whole person". Whatever your goal, my coaching approach begins with taking "inventory" of all the key areas in your life. By doing so, we guarantee that primary obstacles to, and proponents of, your happiness are identified and that the practice we develop to move your relationship forward is truly effective.
Here Are Some Illustrations:
Example A: Joe has low sex drive. His wife mistakenly believes the lack of intimacy is a result of apathy or that the love has gone cold. However, we take a health inventory and discover a hormone imbalance, food intolerance, or some other physical issue is to blame, and that we can easily move towards resolution with specific lifestyle changes. It would have been a mistake to immediately begin lighting candles and working on karma sutra poses, and would surely have lead to frustration and a feeling of hopelessness. Instead, we resolve the physical issues that caused Joe's low sex drive, and then when we move on to back rubs and mood lighting, we can expect a more positive outcome.
Example B: Beth is angry and negative most of the time. Her boyfriend feels abused and disrespected, and believes she no longer loves him. However, we dig deep and discover that the root cause of Beth's anger stems from a series of failures in the work place. The frustration is being displaced because there doesn't appear to be a solution to her career woes. It would be futile to work with Beth on her communication style without resolving the underlying cause of her anger. So instead, we re-engineer her career path, coming up with a plan to transition her out of the corporate world and into her own business (her dream). She didn't think she could do it, but now she sees a light at the end of the tunnel. Her anger literally disappears overnight, replaced with excitement for her life - including her relationship.